There are only hours left to say goodbye to 2023 and I want to look at this year from my own window. My financier side tells me, "Vuslat, take a look at your life ratios before the year closes."
A new ratio has been added to my life ratios in 2023.
“Define what a good relationship with yourself means and act accordingly.”
The norms, teachings, beliefs and expected behaviours regarding the relationship with others are very clear.But what happens to us when we act accordingly? That is the issue I want to solve.
Thank God, life has provided me with many examples this year for me to learn from.
I share this a lot in my coaching sessions;
The rapidly changing new world tells us;
1. Stick to what you know that works for you
2. Forget what doesn't work for you- Un-learn
3.Re-learn
I applied this motto to myself and something striking occurred to me in the second topic. My definitions of my own needs and the definitions of 8 billion people in the world are different from each other and time also changes my and others’ definitions.
Expecting similar behaviours from those around me with regard to sincerity, openness, compassion, helpfulness are a very challenging area, and the positive response is very rare. SOLUTION: If I can clarify my own definitions and make mini-dose adjustments appropriate to the behaviors of those around me, my relationship with both others and myself will improve.
For example, after having a hard and tiring day at work with frustration, to stay at home for a while for resting and then stopping by a coffee for a pre-planned friends meeting is different from my old behavioural patterns, but it wasn't that difficult to do.
Notifying them about my late coming and tell them why I am late is the open communication which supports sincere approach in my new definition.
At the end of 2023, my self-rated score started to increase.
I started to become a Vuslat who was not insistent on my own needs but was clear and did not forget to keep in touch with herself in terms of re-learning.
I try to be sensitive to both others and myself. I'm trying to learn to find a balance in my relationships from serving others to serving both myself and others.
My journey is long but it is enjoyable.
I wish you all a happy and healthy 2024 in which you touch your true-self. 🌺 🥂 🎄 🎉 🎊